15
year old Ana, said 'I thought he loved me because he wanted me all to
himself. He wouldn’t let me talk to other guys and convinced me that I
didn’t need my friends because I had him. If I did see my friends, he
would fire questions at me about where I’d been, who with, and what we
talked about, even what I wore. He’d go on at me about my clothes and
would criticise me if I wore something he didn’t like or if he thought
I looked like a ‘slut’. I felt like he was checking on me all the time.
Gradually I stopped seeing friends as much, because it just wasn’t worth
the stress afterwards. In the end it felt easier just to do what he wanted".If you want to read more about what it's like in an abusive relationship, have a read of Isabella's story about how she got free from an abusive relationship, and her advice to someone who was being abused. You can also read other's stories or tell us your own. |
Eva
was physically abused by her boyfriend. "Once he dragged me out of
the schoolground by my hair because he saw me talking to some guys my
brother knew. He said he’d kill me if he caught me doing it again. I was
really scared of him and embarrassed about everyone seeing him treat me
like that, but I thought it was my fault because I knew he got jealous
easily and I shouldn’t have spoken to them. I thought his jealousy was
a sign that he loved me so much. My friends said I should just break up
with him – they kept saying "‘why do you stay with him?" like
it was my fault. But they didn’t know how afraid I was of what he’d do
if I left him"If you want to read more about what it's like in an abusive relationship, have a read of Isabella's story about how she got free from an abusive relationship, and her advice to someone who was being abused. You can also read other's stories or tell us your own. |
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"I
used to think that it was my fault that he treated me bad. One night I
was really drunk at a party, and he saw me kissing another guy. When he
got me on my own he punched me right in the face and kicked me, and he
said if I ever did anything like that again he’d kill me. I thought I deserved
it because of what I’d done. But now I realise that even though he was
hurt and angry, he didn’t have to abuse me like that. He could have talked
to me about his feelings, or he could have just broken up with me and walked
away. But instead he decided to abuse me, and he didn’t have to act that
way. Basically his attitude was that I was his posession and he could treat
me any way he liked."If you want to read more about what it's like in an abusive relationship, have a read of Isabella's story about how she got free from an abusive relationship, and her advice to someone who was being abused. You can also read other's stories or tell us your own. |